Family Works

Encouraging failure

Rob Coombs ID. Min. Ph.D.
Posted 7/16/17

If you would like your children to fail, there are several things you can do that will dramatically increase the likelihood it will happen. You might consider any (or all) of the following 10 …

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Family Works

Encouraging failure

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If you would like your children to fail, there are several things you can do that will dramatically increase the likelihood it will happen. You might consider any (or all) of the following 10 guidelines. Results will be guaranteed at least 80 percent of the time.

1. Maintain a “Do as I say, not as I do” attitude, and then demand that your children obey you without question. This will keep your children very anxious, plus encourage them to harbor hidden resentments toward you.

2. Be as inconsistent as possible. Keep your children guessing, always “waiting for the other shoe to drop.”

3. Show love to your children only when certain conditions are met. Let them know through your attitude and actions that love and affection come only with acceptable behavior.

4. Provide a steady diet of constant criticism making sure your children unequivocally understand that they can never do anything right, in your view. Statements like “You’re stupid” or “You’ll never amount to anything” are especially helpful.

5. Have impossibly high standards for your children. This will set them up for a great deal of stress and anxiety. By doing this, you can’t lose. Even if they should succeed, they will feel like failures.

6. As much as possible, quarrel and fight, sometimes allowing violence. Your children will learn that power is important and that it is better to control than to be controlled. When you have had enough, punish your children severely, thereby showing them you are in charge.

7. Do not allow your children to express their thoughts and feelings freely. Don’t tolerate your little boys crying or your little girls openly showing anger.

8. Remind your children that money is everything and that true success is defined in terms of possessions. If they believe that “money does buy happiness,” regardless of whether or not they become rich or remain poor they will always be unhappy.

9. Seek to be as overprotective as possible. This will encourage your children to become helpless and dependent, which, in turn, will fuel a low self-esteem as your children feel they must constantly rely on you and others for advice and approval. Pitying can also be helpful as it effectively communicates that you, as the one pitying, are superior to the one being pitied.

10. Teach them that life is the pits. Such pessimism is contagious. Children grow up accepting that life is an endless series of problems and disappointments.

Do any or all of these 10 things, and rest assured that you will have increased the likelihood that your children will be failures!

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