For every problem there is a solution. For every question there is an answer. No other attitude will help you more in coping with the difficult challenges of life.
Here is an ancient tale that well illustrates this effective approach: Once upon a time there was a farmer in a small village in China who owed a large sum of money to a very old and mean man.
The farmer had a very pretty daughter that the old lender desired for his own bidding. So the old lender proposed a deal. He offered to forgive the debt if he could marry the farmer’s daughter. Both the farmer and his daughter were horrified by this proposition!
So the old lender suggested “chance” should determine the outcome of his proposal. Since the discussion was taking place on the road in front of the farmer’s house and the road was paved with pebbles, he told the farmer he would put two pebbles — one black and one white — in an empty bag and the daughter would pick, without looking, one of the two pebbles.
If she picks the black one, she must marry the old lender and the debt of her father is forgiven. If she picks the white pebble, she does not have to marry the old lender and the debt is also forgiven. If she refuses to pick a pebble, her father will go to jail!
While he was speaking, the old lender leaned forward and picked up two pebbles. As he was picking them up, the daughter, with her watchful eyes, noticed he had picked up two black pebbles and quickly put them in the money bag! She said nothing. The old lender then asked the daughter to pick a pebble out of the bag.
At this point, there are three possibilities to consider: 1. The daughter refuses to pick a pebble and her father goes to jail. 2. The daughter picks out both pebbles revealing the old lender has cheated, but her father will still owe the money and will go to jail. 3. The daughter picks out the black pebble and sacrifices herself by marrying the old lender and save her father from imprisonment.
Imagine for an instant what you would have done? What would you have suggested the daughter do? Whatever she decides, the daughter’s dilemma cannot be resolved in a fair manner. There are consequences to each of the three options. Stop reading and think. Honestly, what would you have done?
In the case of the farmer’s daughter, here was her solution: She swiftly plunged her hand into the bag, with eyes closed, picked a pebble and clumsily dropped it on the ground where it mixed with other pebbles before it could be determined if it was black or white.
“I am so nervous!” she said. “But, no matter. If I remove the other pebble from the bag we will know which pebble I had picked, is that not correct?”
Since the second pebble was black, the first had to have been white! The old lender did not dare announce his cheating and quickly forgave the debt. The farmer’s daughter had suddenly transformed an impossible situation into a winning advantage for her and her father!
Now, think back to every trial you have faced — every time you felt cornered with no way out. Did you ever find a way out? What is the worse that happened? Christians are reminded at 2Corinthians 4:8-9: “We are experiencing all kinds of trouble, but we aren’t crushed. We are confused, but we aren’t depressed. We are harassed, but we aren’t abandoned. We are knocked down, but we aren’t knocked out.” — Common English Bible.
Whatever the problem, there is a way out. It may not have been what you imagined, but the One who can see every solution to every problem gave us a promise that He will show us at way out if we rely on Him.
As 1Corinthians 10:13 says: “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” — New Living Translation.
God’s Word says He will “show you a way out so that you can endure” the problems you face. Even if you can’t see a solution, He can. You may not know how to weigh every angle of every dilemma. That’s OK. God does. So what should you do? As James 1:5 says, “If any of you needs wisdom to know what you should do, you should ask God, and he will give it to you.” — GOD’S WORD Translation.
Many people mistakenly ask God to get them out of a problem or to remove the problem when they should be asking for wisdom to solve the problem, “to know what you should do.” In some cases the answer might be found in applying 1Peter 5:6-7: “Humble yourselves, then, under God’s mighty hand, so that he will lift you up in his own good time. Leave all your worries with him, because he cares for you.” — Good News Translation.
Our All-wise, All-knowing Heavenly Father promise to “lift you up in his own good time.” Why? Because He cares for you. He is the most ingenious thinker in the universe. There is no solution beyond Him.
So when you feel there is no way out, don’t forget to ask God for wisdom and keep asking until you receive it. Don’t give up! Because for every problem there is a solution. Every question has an answer. And you know exactly where to look.